Navigating Cultural Identity and Conflict

For many people from immigrant backgrounds, adjusting to life in a new culture can bring about certain difficulties. It’s common to feel caught between different sets of expectations, particularly balancing personal cultural identity and family or societal expectations. This may impact one’s emotional wellbeing, making it important to recognize and address these challenges. Here are some common conflicts that arise with practical tips to honor your cultural heritage while still engaging with a new culture. 

Language use

One of the first big challenges after immigrating is learning a new language. Families often face the dilemma of whether to fully embrace the new language, or keep the native tongue at home. Truthfully, you do not have to choose one or the other! This is where balance comes in - you might decide to strictly speak your native language at home, while engaging in the new language at school or work. Speaking multiple languages is a valuable skill and will help you adapt to your new environment while still keeping your heritage alive. Consider making an effort to pass down your native tongue to future generations in order to preserve your culture and smooth communication across all ages. 

Dating and romantic relationships

In many cultures, there may be an expectation to marry within your cultural, religious or ethnic background. However, it is perfectly natural to desire the freedom to choose your own partner based on your personal feelings and compatibility. Navigating these differences can be challenging, but honest and respectful conversations can help. Remind yourself to not jump to any conclusions, as your own biases may be affecting your assumptions on how your family may react. 

Social life

Deciding on how much time to spend with your family versus friends can be difficult, especially in certain cultures that emphasize staying close to home. However, especially when moving to a new country, it is so important to build new friendships and connect with new people! Try having an open conversation with your family to strike a balance. You could even consider creating a new family tradition, like a weekly family meal with dishes from your culture. This gives you meaningful family time while honoring your roots. 

Mental health and emotional expression 

In some cultures, it is encouraged for emotions or mental health struggles to be kept private and not be openly discussed. With that being said, adapting to a new culture can bring unique stressors, and it is perfectly okay to seek help when you need it! That may mean opening up to trusted friends or family members, joining a support group or speaking with a mental health professional. Our emotional wellbeing is just as important as our physical health, and prioritizing both is not a sign of weakness - this may just be the step you need towards grounding yourself and thriving in your new environment. 

Struggling to balance cultures? Schedule a session at Jamron today and start navigating your identity with support.

Written by

Natalia Morato

MHC-Intern