Valentine's Day is typically a time used to focus on relationships with significant others. But what if Valentine's day waas a day to focus on your relationship with YOURSELF????
What if we learned to find happiness in our singleness. There’s value in a loving relationship with oneself. It comes in handy on days like Valentines day or just days when you may feel lonely. So, how do we do this? How do we find happiness in singleness? What are some practical ways that you can learn to love you, to cherish you, and to get through a Valentine's day alone?
Being single is often associated with loneliness, or sadness. We have the chance to change that narrative and say singleness is freedom, its self exploration. Just because someone is alone does not mean they are lonely. Begin by thinking about what makes you happy, where does your joy come from. If you don’t have an answer, start a journey of self-exploration. If you do have an answer, do what makes you happy, and do it often. Here are a few quick tips to finding happiness in singleness on Valentine’s day and every day.
1. Take yourself on a Valentine’s day date
If you have a favorite restaurant or dessert place, make a reservation and go! You don’t even have to go alone! Take some single friends with you and have a blast! IF you like the movies, buy a ticket and a large popcorn and ENJOY! If you’re more of a snuggle up with a good book kind of person, set the stage. Grab your favorite blanket, light some candles and grab your newest read. You could even plan a weekend trip, with a hike or a nice staycation.
2. If you don’t already have some, go make some single friend
The reason this is important is because, friends who are couples, may not always understand where you are at. They may not understand the self-care, self-exploration, and self-love you have(they may even be jealous of it). Single friends can relate, and maybe even push you to enjoy your flexibility as a single person even more!
3. Set goals and grow
This is a fun one, when you're single you have no one tying you down or no one you have to check in with. This is the perfect time for you to reach some goals. They can be small like, try cooking a new meal once a week or big, like travel to Europe. Goals are important because they force us to reach and strive towards a better and happier self.
4. Prioritize self care
SELF-CARE, something that everyone struggles with. Self-care can come easily or it can be something you have to force yourself to do, but once you do it you feel revived. Take some time to find out what it is that you classify as self-care. On Valentine's Day, afteryour date with yourself, take a bath or get a massage or watch your favorite childhood TV show. Something that lets your mind rest and your soul breathe. Valentine’s Day does not need to belong to the couples of the world, it can belong to the singles too. Finding happiness here is essential to growing as a human being and learning to love yourself. Whether you want a relationship in the future or not, finding happiness while alone is one of the best things you’ll ever do for yourself.
Wrote by: Casey Shaw MFT-Intern